Archive for November, 2006

SEXPO 2006

Sunday, November 26th, 2006

SEXPO 2006, this was the 2nd year it was held. It’s an exhibition about sex. YES, you heard right….SEX. Now, before you jump up and around with all the excitment of a pornographic video, I’ll have to pour some cold water on it. Settle down and maybe you’ll learn a thing or two. Then again, you might not…….who cares? Since I was fortunate to be in Singapore this year, I thought what the hell? Might as well go have a look-see look-see what it’s all about. I mean as the saying goes "When in Rome, do as the Romans do" in my case it’s Lion City, Singapore.

It was a 3 day event from 24-26 Nov 2006 and tickets for entry were selling at SGD$10.00 for a 1-day pass and SGD$25.00 for a 3-day pass. I went only on the last day…..26 Nov 2006. I approached the ticket counter and these 2 sexy ladies wearing a cat costume and the other a devils costume came up asking me, "Would you like to go to SEXPO?" I pretended to be ignorant while checking them out S. They explained to me that it’s an exhibition to learn more about sex. I was tempted to ask "Would they be any live shows?" but then my brain kicked in and decided against it. There I was, purchased a ticket and just for the last day they were giving a goodie bag (I was scratching my head…what would you give as goodie bag at a sex exhibition?). I’ll let you have a wild guess. I’ll confirm it if it’s true. (Don’t wanna spoil the fun).

So while with anticipation like a young boy with a new toy, I approached the entrance and peeked inside…..wait, this can’t be it? can it? there was a huge booth in the middle catering for women’s skincare….I thought "what the hell?" Isn’t this out of place? Where is the gals in skimpy clothing walking around? (heck where is the nude gals anyway?). There were a few more other booths there. There is one for charity massage, spa retreats, AIDS awareness and others.

There was a centre stage further behind and there was also a few so called attractions like the photo shoots with the AXQUISITE beauty queens & swimsuit models (Vavavavoom), the pole dancers at SGD$5.00 per entry, there is a changing room to change into costumes and take sexy photos at SGD$5.00 per entry, there was an art exhibition entitled ‘Sensual Illusions’ which showcased photos and drawings of the human male & female body form, there was also a Body paint showcase where nude models are painted with themes, and many more.

Here is a short listing of the type of exhibitors found:

Sexuality Education

  • Magazines and publications
  • Hospital and Health Service providers

Sexual Health

  • Pharmaceutical companies
  • Aromatherapy
  • Beauty Therapy
  • Gymnasiums and sports equipment
  • Health and fitness info, products, services
  • Massage and meditation

Romance and Beauty

  • Fashion Swimwear, Lingerie
  • Body piercing & tattooing
  • Hair and skin care, Glamour photography and artistry
  • Romantic restaurants, holiday resorts

Adult Lifestlye

  • Adult products and services
  • Themed costumes

Food and Beverage

  • Champagne and Wine
  • Chocolates

All in all, I would not say that the exhibition was a waste of time but a learning experience. The Seminars were good, the fashion show was awesome, the many booths were on hand to provide lotsa info and tips to improve sexual health, sexual knowledge, and SEX itself.

There was also lotsa stuff to buy at the many booths that were setup. The variety was huge an among them were the usual stuff like:

  • Male G-Strings and Female Sexual lingerie to keep the sparks burning
  • Themed costume lingeries to spice things up
  • Various type of Condoms and Lubricants to ensure safe sex
  • Sexual games sets for couples and groups to simply have FUN
  • Sexual Aids like dildos, penis pump, vibrators for those that eager to venture
  • Sexual libido like aphrodisiacs, penis enlargement pills/oil, and libido drivers to help improve the pleasure of sex
  • Sexual Souvenirs like boob key chains and dick candies for those with a need for creative gifts
  • Sexual Health products that help the women & men protect from STDs & AIDS

I must say that I have never seen so many dicks in my life Y(referring to the various sizes and colourful Dildos and Vibrators). There was also a female sex doll featured. There was also a Fuck machine (a motorised dick that thrust up and down). I’m not sure if I should pity the gal that needs it or feel threatened by the fact it could soon replace us males, yikes!

Please note that the event was not to promote sex (although it should, given the low birth rate in Singapore), but more of ensuring people get the knowledge to have a healthy sexual life, open discussions about sexuality, understanding sex and enhancing relationships. For more details about the event, see the link below:

www.sexpo.com.sg

There is also an online store for you to shop at your own leisure, feel free to browse 0

www.sexpo.com.sg/onlinestore

If you have not guessed it, the exhibition on sex is more in the lines of its tagline:

HEALTHY SEX, HEALTHY LIFE

***Note: Blogging & going for the event do not in anyway makes me a sexual pervert, rather improves me to be a sexpert S

Selfish Kiasu Assholes

Monday, November 20th, 2006

They are times in our life that we come across individuals in society that just make you feel like reaching out and giving them a good piece of your mind, not verbally mind you BUT physically giving them A BIG ASS PIECE of BOTH my LEFT & RIGHT MIND!!!

Why am I getting worked up about this? No reason, just that I feel compelled to blog about idiots we encounter in our daily life. You sit there and think for a quick moment and your mind will soon see any one of these:
-the road hogging idiot that drove slowly on the fast lane this morning while most people are rushing to work
-the bunch of idiots that stand right in front of the LRT/MRT door and rushing in before people could get off
-the impatient dumbass crowd that would suddenly surge to the front and cut queue when the bus arrives while civic minded people like us stand in line waiting for an hour only to be cut off by them
-the escalator hoggers that stand side by side and oblivious to people that wants to pass through
-the "don’t turn off/silent mobile phone in cinema" type which is really just plain stupid and ignorant. Sure they laugh at all the ads that sends a simple message "Please turn off your mobile phone" ………….. I guess these idiots only know colourful pictures but dunno how to read.

There is just too many of these out there nowadays and it does irritate me a fair bit that they think it’s ok to behave that sorta way. What happened to being civic minded? being polite? being courteous? Are we doomed to be a society that thrives on being inconsiderate and ignorant?

From a personal experience, I hate the most are those that take the empty twin seats of a bus either by putting their stuff on the other seat (totally inconsiderate) or taking the aisle seat while leaving other to squeeze through to get to the window seats. Mind you they just budge a little rather than move in to the window seat. What can I say? ASSHOLE!!!

So be a proper contributor to society, cause how we treat others and what we do will mirror back in our life later when the next generation brings it back to us. It’s a vicious cycle indeed…..Let’s nip it in the bud

Wake up Fellow Malaysians!!!

Monday, November 20th, 2006

I feel like I’m gonna get blasted and flamed for posting this particular post. Still it’s gotta be done. I read this article and post with much interest and advise all to take it with a pinch of salt.

Here is the link: http://www.michaelbackman.com/LatestAgeColumn2.html

While Malaysia fiddles, its opportunities are running dry
By Michael Backman
The Age
November 15, 2006

MALAYSIA’S been at it again, arguing about what proportion of the economy each of its two main races
— the Malays and the Chinese — owns. It’s an argument that’s been running for 40 years. That wealth
and race are not synonymous is important for national cohesion, but really it’s time Malaysia grew up.

It’s a tough world out there and there can be little sympathy for a country that prefers to argue about
how to divide wealth rather than get on with the job of creating it.

The long-held aim is for 30 per cent of corporate equity to be in Malay hands, but the figure that the
Government uses to justify handing over huge swathes of public companies to Malays but not to other
races is absurd. It bases its figure on equity valued, not at market value, but at par value.

Many shares have a par value of say $1 but a market value of $12. And so the Government figure (18.9
per cent is the most recent figure) is a gross underestimate. Last month a paper by a researcher at a
local think-tank came up with a figure of 45 per cent based on actual stock prices. All hell broke loose.
The paper was withdrawn and the researcher resigned in protest. Part of the problem is that he is
Chinese.

"Malaysia boleh!" is Malaysia’s national catch cry. It translates to "Malaysia can!" and Malaysia certainly
can. Few countries are as good at wasting money. It is richly endowed with natural resources and the
national obsession seems to be to extract these, sell them off and then collectively spray the proceeds
up against the wall.

This all happens in the context of Malaysia’s grossly inflated sense of its place in the world.

Most Malaysians are convinced that the eyes of the world are on their country and that their leaders are
world figures. This is thanks to Malaysia’s tame media and the bravado of former prime minister Mahathir
Mohamad. The truth is, few people on the streets of London or New York could point to Malaysia on a
map much less name its prime minister or capital city.

As if to make this point, a recent episode of The Simpsons features a newsreader trying to announce
that a tidal wave had hit some place called Kuala Lumpur. He couldn’t pronounce the city’s name and so
made up one, as if no-one cared anyway. But the joke was on the script writers — Kuala Lumpur is
inland.

Petronas, the national oil company is well run, particularly when compared to the disaster that passes for
a national oil company in neighbouring Indonesia. But in some respects, this is Malaysia’s problem. The
very success of Petronas means that it is used to underwrite all manner of excess.

The KLCC development in central Kuala Lumpur is an example. It includes the Twin Towers, the tallest
buildings in the world when they were built, which was their point. It certainly wasn’t that there was an
office shortage in Kuala Lumpur — there wasn’t.

Malaysians are very proud of these towers. Goodness knows why. They had little to do with them. The
money for them came out of the ground and the engineering was contracted out to South Korean
companies. They don’t even run the shopping centre that’s beneath them. That’s handled by Australia’s
Westfield.

Next year, a Malaysian astronaut will go into space aboard a Russian rocket — the first Malay in space.
And the cost? $RM95 million ($A34.3 million), to be footed by Malaysian taxpayers. The Science and
Technology Minister has said that a moon landing in 2020 is the next target, aboard a US flight. There’s
no indication of what the Americans will charge for this, assuming there’s even a chance that they will
consider it. But what is Malaysia getting by using the space programs of others as a taxi service? There
are no obvious technical benefits, but no doubt Malaysians will be told once again, that they are "boleh".
The trouble is, they’re not. It’s not their space program.

Back in July, the Government announced that it would spend $RM490 million on a sports complex near
the London Olympics site so that Malaysian athletes can train there and "get used to cold weather". But
the summer Olympics are held in the summer.

So what is the complex’s real purpose? The dozens of goodwill missions by ministers and bureaucrats to
London to check on the centre’s construction and then on the athletes while they train might provide a
clue.

Bank bale outs, a formula one racing track, an entire new capital city — Petronas has paid for them all.
It’s been an orgy of nonsense that Malaysia can ill afford.

Why? Because Malaysia’s oil will run out in about 19 years. As it is, Malaysia will become a net oil
importer in 2011 — that’s just five years away.

So it’s in this context that the latest debate about race and wealth is so sad.

It is time to move on, time to prepare the economy for life after oil. But, like Nero fiddling while Rome
burned, the Malaysian Government is more interested in stunts like sending a Malaysian into space
when Malaysia’s inadequate schools could have done with the cash, and arguing about wealth
distribution using transparently ridiculous statistics.

That’s not Malaysia "boleh", that’s Malaysia "bodoh" (stupid).

ends

There has been a lot of good and bad feedback from various people after this was circulated around but I feel personally that there is much truth to what was written. It also seems that there are many out there with patriotism that has gone fairly blind and only see what they think is equivalent to having our modesty outrage. Be that as it may, Malaysians need to have a serious wake up call across all races & religion.

A follow up note posted specifically for Malaysian readers (trying to fend off any future charges from our so called "great" leaders that he is another foreigner trying to topple the goverment). For me, it’s like sarcasticly telling Malaysian readers that "these are just my views, you don’t like it then don’t read…your choice….don’t say I didn’t warn you beforehand. Then after reading the notice, being the inquisitive & curious creature of habit that we are….what do we do?? we fucking clivk on the link to read it. The effect is simple: either you are happy that someone is openly criticising our goverment or you fucking get pissed off because you don’t like what you read. Anyway, didn’t you forget? you DID read the freaking notice beforehand right? So SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!

Here is the notice anyway: http://www.michaelbackman.com/Malaysia.html


The response to my recent column ‘While Malaysia fiddles, its opportunities are running dry’, published in The Age
newspaper on November 15 has been overwhelming. I’ve received hundreds of e-mails and messages, many from
Malaysians both in Malaysia and outside, of which perhaps 95% have been supportive. Thank you for these. It
seems that the column has given voice to concerns that many Malaysians have.

I’d like to emphasise (and as many of you realise already), that I wrote the column as constructive criticism. I like
Malaysia very much. I visit often and have many Malaysian friends of all races. I’ve also written a lot that is positive
about Malaysia in the past, most notably in a previous book of mine - The Asian Insider: Unconventional Wisdom for
Asian Business
, which has no less than five chapters to explain to people outside Malaysia why I feel that Malaysia
should be given more credit than it gets.

There have been many achievements. There is much about which Malaysians can be proud. Malaysia, for example,
is far more politically mature and developed than is Singapore. The media is more open too (but of course not as
open as it could or should be.) Malaysians are more entrepreneurial too. AirAsia started in Malaysia and has
revolutionised air travel across Asia. In Singapore, there is very much a sense that the government has to do
everything.

I also believe that the NEP, which has seen special advantages given to bumiputeras over other groups, has been
important for Malaysia. It has been essential for nation building. Malaysia is peaceful and while the various groups
may not mix much there is clear mutual respect between them. That is a huge achievement.

However, the problem as I said in my column, is waste. And also the use of statistics that are blatantly wrong.
Malaysia also has a big problem with transparency. Too little account is made of how other people’s money is spent.
The police too are way too corrupt for a country as developed as Malaysia. The rote learning that is practiced in the
schools also needs to be done away with. Generations of Malaysian children are missing out on an education that
should teach them how to be creative and critical - this is what a truly modern, boleh country needs. Again, my
comments are meant to be constructive. And I make them as a non-Malaysian largely because many Malaysians
feel rightly or wrongly that they cannot say these things themselves in their own country.

Since my column was published, plans for a new RM400 million Istana have been announced and the Agriculture
Ministry parliamentary secretary has told Parliament that Malaysia’s first astronaut will be playing
batu seremban
and spinning tops and making
teh tarik while in space. There are countless scientists around the world who would
give anything for the opportunity to go to space and do real experiments. For the Malaysian government to send an
astronaut into space to play Malay children’s games serves only to re-emphasise my point about waste. Not only
that, it makes Malaysia look infantile in the eyes of the rest of the world, which is a great pity when Malaysia has
made so many real achievements. The world is getting more clever, more competitive and more dynamic every day.
There are too many in Malaysia who don’t seem to understand this.

Of course my views are just that: my views. But I have spent most of my adult life analysing and writing about Asia. I
am direct and critical; I do not veil my criticisms because I don’t want to waste my time or yours with readers trying to
guess what I really mean. Open debate is absolutely critical for all modern, dynamic countries. The free flow of
ideas and information helps to make countries rich. Political leaders cannot do everything on their own be they in
the UK, Australia or Malaysia. They need help. Otherwise they make mistakes. And when they do, whose fault is
that? Those who prefer to stay quiet? And should I as a non-Malaysian be commenting on Malaysia? Of course.
Malaysian political leaders and commentators routinely comment about other countries. That’s how the world is now,
an inter-dependent, global world. And the world is much better for it.

I will write another column about Malaysia soon.

Michael Backman
November 17 2006

For further intellectual discourse, see the link: http://www.michaelbackman.com/

Enjoy and if you’re pissed off, too bad! Go get a mind to think objectively

Short & Sweet, Brief & Bold, Concise & Complete

Wednesday, November 1st, 2006

I’m back in the saddle again. Giddy up here we go!

It’s been a while. I’m not gonna try making excuses for the lack of post here. The real culprit is ME! yeah, that’s right….ME. Taking responsibility for my own laziness. It’s been busy, yeah but not that busy that I couldn’t blog. I was just plain and simple lazy. Oh mind you, the spark and high I get from blogging is still firing in my blood. The never-ending train of thought is still running. Unfortunately, the other bigger spark in my blood which is procrastination & laziness is a bigger one. Guess which one wins? No hints needed right?

I’ve said it many times and I don’t think I wanna repeat it again. I was gonna try blogging with a new style. Shorter and Sweeter……Brief and Bold…….Concise and Complete. For all thats worth, I do try …….. I do fail …… I don’t give up though. That explains why I’m back and still around Y.

I’m still in Singapore and slowly fitting in and getting use to working and living here. Much to plan for the future, the rest of my live is still ahead of me. It’s still uncertain but viable options are available. Well much of August 2006 went by. I can’t even remember what happened, it just came and went. Either there was nothing that happened, or my dang memory has failed on me and signs of aging are finally cathing up with me. Bloody hell, its way to early……must be all the alchohol that’s slowly killing off the brain cells. Damn it!

September was more a different story. Celebrated my Dearest Mum & Bro’s birthdays. I went back Malaysia 3 times and 2 weeks in a row. 1st week to take my visiting Indon friend, Lilian on a day trip to Melaka. We went there around noon and came back in the night. We reached there as A’famosa resort was about to close, so that was a bust. Ended up going to town and buying food & cookies at Tan Kim Hock. Followed by chicken rice ball dinner at jonker walk. After dinner, we just practically walked around jonker street. Before leaving, we went for satay celup. It was pouring heavily and the place was packed like shit. I hate it when they give priority to bigger groups. Stupid Singaporeans, don’t you guys know that putting a pack of tissue on the table does not reserve it. It may work in kiasu Singapore but hell it doesn’t work here in Malaysia. Lucky I was in a good mood, else I won’t tolerate that kind of stupid kiasu behaviour. 2nd week was to attend a Malaysia colleague’s wedding. It was nice to see the rest of the Malaysia gang again. Some may have left but it was good to see them again. It’s been months. The dinner was great and the groom was accomodating. He actually drank 2 glasses of alchohol, OMG! (My colleague does not drink you see, never-ever…..not even a glass of wine or beer). Hats off to you Andrew.

October was my best month. Not because it’s my birthday, but because I celebrated it with my gal. We planned for a week of in Bali. Ahhh the sun, sea, and sand. IT WAS GREAT!!! Some people wondered what the hell would I do in Bali for a week. Suffice to say, I spent it and not a moment was I bored. However, I might not be going back to Bali for a while though. I was there from 6-13 and celebrated with locals the annivesary of the Bali bombing tragedy. Accomodation was in a Villa with a private pool. In brief, we saw most of the tourist sites. We went sailing on a catamaran yatch. We went to see dolphins in the deep ocean. We went underwater in a submarine to see the marine life. We went banana boat riding & snorkelling. We tasted the local "babi guling". We did a lot of stuff. I’ll try to blog about it more in another post. The pictures should be up soon.

October was also the month where 3 celebrations for 3 races. Mid-Autumn festival for the Chinese, Hari Raya Aidilfitri for the Muslims, and Deepavali for the Indians. It’s a great thing to be living in a multi-ethnic, multi-cultural, and multi-religious society. Harmony comes from the respect that each has for the other.

Lastly, October 31st is also where Western society celebrates Halloween. It’s quite a following here with all the costumes and themed parties. Not to mentioned the decorations too. I got a bite of the Halloween bug too. Bought a devil’s horns and the signature devil’s pitchfork. Time to get evil and party S.

There are things that go bump in the night……so Trick or Treat!!!!

Things That Happen…….Good or Bad?

Wednesday, November 1st, 2006

Ponder over this for a minute.

Do Bad Things happen? We always hear people whining about "Why do bad things happen to me?" or "Why does everything bad happens to me?"

In actual fact, there is no such thing as a bad thing, neither is there a good thing either. You’re thinking I’m whacked right? Probably true……maybe not. Hear me out then you decide.

Things have always happened regardless of being good or bad. It’s the impact it has on different people with different views of life and society and all that crap. Pessimitic people would see most of the negative aspect of a situation while a positive character would see the silver lining in every cloud. There is but only a fine line to distinguish something as bad or good when it hapens. If it impacts us negatively in terms of financial, emotional, career, physical or spiritual aspect, we are likely perceiving it as negative or BAD. Well, if that’s the case, then the GOOD would naturally be a positive impact then.

Putting things in perspective, I’m gonna use the concept of "euthanasia", more commonly known as mercy killing. To allow a person to die is morally wrong but to allow a person to suffer is morally wrong as well. Euthanasia is essentially suicide. As a person, it’s hard to accept death in any form, be it murder, accidental or disease. However, as a doctor it’s easier to justify the need for such an act. To end the suffering of one and to let one be at peace. As a person, that decision would be a BAD one, but as a doctor, that is a GOOD decision.

Objectively analysing the situation, by allowing euthanasia, the death is easier to accept. The death would also make way for resources (hospital bed, doctors & nurses, medicine and etc) to be allocated to others in more need. In times of war and disasters, those that would likely survive will be given priority for medical attention. Those that won’t will likely be given morphine to ease the pain and suffering. It may be a cruel decision, but nevertheless it is one that is for the greater good.

There is a point to be made here as well. How do we define something that happens is good or bad? There is no easy answer to this. Let things happen and decide on how to act on it. Our actions decide the rest of the course that we choose to take. Simply put, Bad or Good?……..we decide……..our choices guide or reaction which turn into actions.

If you get criticise, you can react negatively to it by feeling angry and decide to criticise back which would most likely incite more anger and hatred which would inturn likely turn into a hostile situation. This is what is a BAD thing. However, if we take the criticism as another form of feedback, we can act positivley on it to help improve ourselves. Doesn’t this sound like a GOOD thing?

I’m not justifying that all harsh words or criticism or whatever form of negativity warrants a clear and objective analysis of the situation just to find the good or positive way of reaction. No…..defintely not all. Example if you get robbed, that is a BAD thing. There is nothing good about being robbed, unless you feel compelled to share your wealth with those that source for it through criminal ways.

Remember, things will always happen. There is no good or bad thing. How we react will determine our actions. React positively it’ll be a good thing, react negatively, it’ll be a bad thing. Not everything that happens is good though. You judge yourself if it is bad enough.

One man’s meat is another’s poison.

I’m confused………..are you??