Simplified ConfuJINism in Reality

This post was kinda late and sitting in my draft so now that I have some time to squeeze…..I’ll complete it and post it.

At the time of this post was written, I was in a dilemma. I’m one that is quite determined, in control and hardly gets into much of a dilemma, so when I do hit one…rest assured it’s definitely a serious one.

What on earth you ask that could possibly give mua, the ConfuJINism master a dilemma? Well it’s all about work…….Work? You all must be thinking…sheeeessh, that’s lame…..Well, right and not quite right.
You see, recently the new boss had a revealation of sorts that she wants to consolidate the team all together and have a lovey-dovey….happy-noisy-bustling working team that’s also just a spanking hand away from here. Well it makes sense in a business kinda way.

So on with the dilemma, the new boss wants to consolidate, …. yada…..yada….yada….so she gave us an offer to transfer/relocate to the Roooarring, Lion City of Singapore.
There’s only 2 of us in the team in PJ, me & Agnel. So there, the offer was on the table……..it was more like an ultimatum…..move your ass to kiasu land or get your ass out. In my terms it was SHIP OFF or SHIP OUT.

It was a hard decision for me to make. It was an opportunity I had always wanted, but when it came……I got stumped with butterflies in my stomach. Moving down would mean a HUGE change in my life and everything. I had to find a way to make the payments on my condo and my car and the rest of the loans. Plus I have to get use to taking public transport ….. no more car to zip around. I’m not sure about the ciggies and alchohol there….but I think it might also be expensive. Another sin to drop I guess. Also I gotta learn to start fending for myself AGAIN.
Ultimately, Guess what I will miss most is my dearest and also the gang of friends.

Some say "you can always make new friends" ……..let’s just hope that’s the case. Are Singaporeans friendly people? I like to hope so

I had numerous sleepless nights to think about the offer. I thought I had avoided having to go down Singapore to work when I turned down an earlier offer by another prominent MNC at the very last minute (Suffice to say that I had kinda commited career suicide with the other MNC). I had reached a stage in my life that I realised I wanted to grow with a certain company and Symantec was one that I was confident would allow me to grow. Never did I see this crossroad coming.

Well looks like I can’t avoid my haunting fate………turn down one and another creeps up……it’s like cutting the head off the legendary Hydra.

Think it’s time I gotta take my own advise I gave on my last post

More updates to come later.

Shit, i just realised that I had this darn post sitting in my draft …….. it happens…..especially when you try to blog in between time (like lunch/tea/some boring training) and then pause to continue. Your train of thought will then likely go blank for a while and reload for a moment……. kinda like a tape or CD ……you FastForward or Rewind to the tracks you want or skip what ever songs you don’t like.

The only difference is that there are no buttons to hit/tap/click/press to activate the function. It’ll be kinda weird if you suddenly find that certain sequence of actions on your face/head activates various functions of your brain.

Perhaps then you’ll see people …………..

• tugging their left ears to fastforward memories and tugging the right to rewind.
• blinking their left eye to increase volume and right eye to reduce. Double blinking to activate Stereo Surround Sound
• digging their right nostril for increase in Bass and the left nostril to reduce it.
• sticking their tongue out for more reception.

So don’t be alarm the next time you see a guy on the street or in the LRT that’s continously tugging at his left & right ears and then subsequently blinking his left & right eyes while digging his nose and sticking out his tongue………. Don’t worry, he is not having a spasm attack or even nutty………. He’s just trying to replay his memories :p
Hell, you might even be doing it yourself………..try it………in the confines of your own room of course.

Hmmmmm, ok I think that little intro got a little sidetrack from the blog topic. Anyway here it IS………..i meant WAS…….what was previously written.

With Chinese new year heading to and end…..the glorious 15 days will be once again celebrated across the nation in style. How so you might wanna ask? well the typical celebration for 15th day or last day of CNY is to cook a nice meal with the family, eat and chat and laugh, then sit back relax, have a couple of beers/wine/liquor….what ever tickles your fancy…..then watch the TV or just pop in a VCD/DVD for all to watch…….come midnight just wish everyone "Chap Goh Meh" and be done……bye bye and goodnight.

Nahhhh………nothing like that man……..over here in Malaysia………..we celebrate it big time just like the eve of CNY. Yeah, you guys know what it’s like………… it’s like an event by itself. Why? simple……we celebrate the beginning and ending of all good things. Plus the last day is also known as "Chap Goh Meh"…….from the Hokkien dialect for "15th night". Coincidently, it is also known as the Chinese Valentine.

Three things are apparent on that day/night.

• There will be a few people getting married on that auspicious day.
• There will be loads of people hovering a a nearby park with a pond/lake or some will go to the river/beach. Why?? it is like a traditional custom (don’t ask me from when) that most of the single ladies would gather and throw oranges into the pond/lake/river/ocean and make a wish. It’s to celebrate the chinese valentine’s day with the hopes of finding happiness and a potential partner/suitor next year. Yeah, yeah, yeah I know…..it sounds corny and weird but hey……..it has evolve into a full fledge event every year. This time around, the oranges that are thrown were found to have name & phone numbers written on them.

So if you single guys are still without a match and actively looking………make your way to the nearest pond/lake/river/beach for this annual orange throwing event I think you’ll get more numbers then hitting up girls in clubs and calling up numbers found scribbled in toilet cubicles (usually done by fuck heads bored while busy doing their "business"). However, the downside is that you’ll not get to see their faces before hitting them up. But then again if you’re gonna be one of those type of assholes that think beauty is far more important than character…….well I won’t argue……….it’s your preference.

As this post is gonna coincide with Valentine’s day………….I think I’ll just wish all lovebirds out there
A HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY…………..wish you all happiness with your loved ones and memories to cherish forever.

If your single then……….no sweat……….your time will come, your partner will soon be found…….. and when it does happen…………your world is gonna rock…………for SURE.

As for me, I don’t believe in Valentine’s day………….it was to celebrate the death of St. Valentine but evolved into a commercialised event…………with overprice cut-throat profits for organisations. For me, if you love someone, it is for everyday and forever…………and NOT just for ONE exceptional day. But then again, that’s just me (a practical cheapskate) ………..if you’ve got money to burn and your lady doesn’t find NOT receiving a bouquet of flowers/chocolate/cuddly cute stuff, NOT going out for a lavish overprice couple’s dinner, and NOT celebrating Valentine’s is just not FUNNY (plus, likely you won’t be getting any TLC that night)…….then I guess by all means……….GO AHEAD

Oh yeah the other sure 3rd thing that happens on Chap Goh Meh is always the FIREWORKS………yup……..ban it all you want………complain all you like……….it’s been there always, will be there always and gonna be there…………..like it or not…………it’s to STAY!!!

So it’ll be a noisy night…………with all the BANG-BOOM-POP going around………..good luck getting a good night’s rest.

Cheerios…………Lovebirds, Single-Orange-Throwing-Ladies, Single-Orange-Catching-Guys, Noisy Firework Players, Valentiners and non-Valentiners

What is that makes us all jittery and have so called "butterflies in our stomach" it’s a feeling that makes most weak at the knees, stumped for words, tongue tied, eyes wide open and mouth agape. Well not all that exactly but at least likely one of those reaction.

For me it’s the anxiety of not being in control as well as not knowing what will happen. I’m not saying I wanna be a fortune teller or have endowed with "sixth sense" or ESP. I don’t wanna have to know what happens, but at least able to predict an outcome of certain things.

So in brief and simpler words, it’s the feeling of the UNKNOWN that gets to me. Cause not knowing will make me unprepared, unable to react and extremely uneasy. If at least I know what is in store for me then I know what I can do to so call avoid it or achieve it.

Getting a little too vague??……..well that’s the same……..you don’t know = you don’t understand and hence you are kinda left in a dark spot.

No one knows what will happen in their life. No one knows if the path we take and the choices we make are the right ones or even the wrong ones. We would just have to weigh all the factors, facts, and take into consideration all possible outcomes/contingencies and ultimately suck in our gut, swallow down, and with a big gasp of air and long hard sigh……… we MAKE the decision. What happens next? It never ends there……….oh no, no, no, no……. we then hope that we did the right thing……..we then make things work……How? you put in effort and work at making it happen.

Well it may seem a little nonchalant, but the cliche "our choices decide our fate" is nothing further from the truth.

So decide now and then decide later………don’t matter. Just make it work whatever your decision.